We all know that getting a first date with someone is not easy. On top of that, there are a lot of thoughts and pressures that people put on themselves, especially if haven’t dated for a while. Preparing yourself for a first date can be quite nerve wracking and a lot of people find themselves on the verge of hysteria before a first date (male and female alike, by the way).
So, to help you get through the first date and even succeed and impress the potential partner, here are a few tips to take into consideration:
- Prepare your wardrobe. Don’t wait until the last minute to decide what to wear, it adds a lot of pressure. Prepare in advance (even a day before) a winning outfit, one that you know that looks good on you, not too casual but not too fancy, and not very revealing for the ladies here. You want to look good and attractive but you don’t need to look like you’ve stepped out of a magazine… just something in the middle.
- Take a shower. It might sound obvious to some of you, but still, make sure you shower before the date. Aside from the understandable reason of smelling good (which also connects to looking good), it serves another purpose. It means you will go home, get ready, take time, get the load off after a long day at work, and relax a bit before you head out.
- Be attentive. So, the date started, you look and smell fabulous, but what’s next? For starters, what’s NOT next is you sitting at the table answering to phone calls or texting for the most part of the evening. Even if it’s super important from work, it can wait. You are here now to pay attention to the other person, and to shed some light on yourself and share information. If there is a real emergency, apologize and take the call outside. Otherwise, it sends the message that you’re not interested.
- Avoid TMI. Especially when nervous, people tend to overshare. While it’s nice to share funny anecdotes from your childhood, it’s less nice to hear about your troubles with the bank, your medical issues or that the Mexican food you had for lunch is blundering your stomach. Most importantly – do not talk about past relationships and your ex, and certainly not about how you once tried to get your ex back. Nobody needs to hear that on the first date, it’ll only drive them away.
- Stay realistic and focus on having fun. Don’t forget – you are there to have a good time and enjoy meeting a new person. Don’t come with high expectations that this person will be THE ONE, even if you’ve shared hilarious text messages and the conversation on the phone was next to awesome. This could only lead to disappointment when you meet. Just like you, the other person can also be nervous or stressed, and won’t necessarily show their true amazing qualities. Keep your expectations low and you’ll probably be pleasantly surprised.
Also, remember that you’re on a date, not a job interview, so just try to have fun. When you are relaxed and show that you have a nice time, you also present yourself as a fun and enjoyable person, a person that your potential date would like to see again.