The best way to get back with your ex girlfriend is to make her think she wants you back. The path that led to your break up was a result of gradual or instant loss of attraction. It is important to know which it was as a gradual loss was most likely several things going wrong over time and an instant loss of attraction was most likely the result of a specific incident that totally ticked her off. Knowing that will help you figure out how to get your ex girlfriend to want you back.
All relationships hit the hard road once in a while and it takes a real commitment to work through those hard and difficult times. It takes an effort to do the necessary repair work as needed in order to keep the relationship healthy and thriving. In any relationship, there will be small events that will occur that will annoy the other person. It is not worth getting all cranked up about the little things such as leaving a used coffee mug in the sink once in a while or always being 15 minutes late for a date.
Those things are easy to deal with. Simply rinse out the coffee mug yourself and setting the time to meet or leave 15 minutes ahead of the actual time. The more significant things like the way you are treated in general or not given the respect you deserve are two events that should not be left unchecked. Letting things go, with the thought it does not matter, is the wrong tact to take.
After analyzing the cause of the breakup, come up with a plan to get your ex back that includes incorporating fixes for the things that went wrong. Do not beg her to come back and do not plead while making threats for your ex to come back. Those will driver her further away from you and right to another partner.
Improve your value as a person and boyfriend. Show her you have what it takes to have a happening life. If you sit around and do nothing, you will never get past losing your girlfriend and never recoup enough strength to get your ex back. Do not contact her constantly and do not show up at all the places she might be, hoping for a chance meeting. If you do see her while out and about, be sure you are with friends with a definite plan in place. Even if it is just meeting for drinks, do not look like you are available. Be courteous and say hello but be sure to get to your friends before too long.
The point is to make her realize she gave up a gem and want that gem back, and do not forget you are that gem. If she sees you with a renewed sense of confidence and self worth, you will start to look pretty darn attractive again and become the focus of her dreams. If she makes contact with you, respond in kind, but do not sound desperate. Be sensitive, positive and willing to talk and she just might be back to being the love of your life before you know it.
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