You have broken up with your girlfriend and now you want to get her back. The reasons for the break up were silly and you are ready to do what you have to do to get her back. If groveling is high on your list of methods to use to get her back, work up another list of methods. Groveling will just make you look weak, pathetic and way too needy. No matter what you may have heard, girls do not like that. So, if you really want to learn how to win your ex girlfriend back, sit down and take notes.
After a short period of cooling off time, as well as some time apart, it will be time to reestablish the lines of communication. Do not wait too long, perhaps a few weeks will be sufficient, as the longer she does not hear from you, the more of a distant memory you will become. Do not give her too much opportunity to find someone else.
The first communication should be short and sweet. Ask how she is doing, what she has been up to or if she has seen the latest movie at the local movie theater. Keep the chatter general and non personal. What you are really trying to do is find out her level of interest in you at this point in time. If she answers your questions and asks a few of her own, she probably has interest and is happy to hear from you. If her answers are short and curt, she is either busy or not happy to hear from you. Do not talk very long, just enough to keep you in her thoughts. Keep communication short and general until she is more receptive to your calls or she tells you not to call her anymore.
Once you have reached the happy to hear from you point, you can ask her out to lunch or for coffee. Stay away from having drinks. If you have a few too many, you will say all the wrong things and that could be a major turn off. That may also undo all the good you have done up to that point. Keep the first face to face meeting short and on neutral territory. Keep the conversation somewhat general but do not hesitate to tell her you miss her. If that gets you a green light, you just might be on your way to reuniting.
Without being too pushy, come right out and tell her you would like another chance and the two of you can get back together. Review the reasons you two broke up, without going into too much detail, and outline the things you will do to make sure nothing like that happens again. Take your share of the responsibility for the break up and allow her to do the same. If she thinks everything was your fault, you may have a longer way to go.
The upshot of the whole deal is, women want someone who is strong and confident and will admit their mistakes. They want someone who is willing put an effort into a relationship and be part of the reason it is a success. You can read on and get more tips here.
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